Possibly one of the most common questions we get asked about the twins at the moment is “Do they interact/notice each other/comfort each other?”. So far our answer to that question has been a resounding “no”. In fact, we tend to say it’s one of the most disappointing things about having twins so far. We, like most people imagined this amazing bond they would have from birth, holding hands, gazing into each others eyes, soothing each other to sleep. The reality has been, up until now, complete indifference. We often hold them near each other. Picture each of us bobbing up and down, left and right, to just try and get them to make eye contact. We often lie them next to each other on the floor to see if the close proximity brings about some level of connection. The reality is a lot of flailing around, hitting each other accidentally in the face.
BUT tonight we had a breakthrough. They had a moment. And it was beautiful. It brought me to tears.
We each held a twin facing out in our arms opposite each other. Wilf, so far the more chatty twin made a lovely noise. Hatty, who has only recently started making chatty noises at all, began to really laugh. Hatty stopped and Wilf made another gorgeous sound. Hatty laughed again. Wilf, wide eyed and smiley responded. Hatty laughed again. This continued for a few minutes. It was amazing. They were really clearly interacting for the first time. They were turn taking with more authenticity than you can create as a parent. There was a sense of recognition, like finding a long lost friend, “It’s you, who I spent 9 months with in the womb, hello”.
I loved it!